A woman had stated that her in-laws had invited them to a fancy restaurant, after a fine evening, they had left the bill to them so that they would pay. She had refused, and there was a drama.
She had shared her story on Reddit, and asked for advice.
The woman had stated that with her husband, they like to try new restaurants, and different food. On sometimes they had invited their in-laws, and when they do, they were paying, because they were the ones that invited.
“My (37F) Husband (40M) and I are amateur foodies – we don’t know anything about anything, but really enjoy good food and going new places. We have a lifestyle that allows us to eat out whenever we like, and live in an area with lots of good food and unique resturants.
We also like to share our favorites, and so recently have begun inviting either my parents or his parents out with us. We take them out maybe once every 3-4 months (not including celebrations), and because we invite, we always pay. This isn’t the only time we see our parents.” the woman explained.
Then a while later, her in-laws had invited them to a fancy restaurant, but the night didn’t end well. “A few months ago, my in laws invited us out to a resturant they liked near their house. We hadn’t ever been, and even though it wasn’t a place we normally would have chosen, we figured it was their way of “joining the fun” and showing us something new like we had shown them.
After dinner, my MIL slid the bill over to my husband without looking at it. He looked surprised, but dinner wasn’t expensive, so we paid it without saying anything. A few weeks later, my in laws invited us out again, to a moderately expensive place we had taken them once before, and did the same thing.”
Then when her in-laws had learnt from her husband that the woman received an award from her workplace, they invited them again to a fancy restaurant again, and the woman said to her husband that were they going to pay again.
“Recently, while on a call with his Mom, my husband mentioned that I had gotten an award at work. His mother immediately suggested we all go out to a very fancy resturant nearby to celebrate. I quietly asked if we were going to have to pay for it, and my husband stated glaring daggers at me.”
Then they had an argue with her husband, which her husband had accused her with rudeness.
“He ended the call quickly, and called me rude. I told him I didn’t think we should have to pay every time his parents wanted to go to dinner, and that they were using my award (which really wasn’t a big deal at all) to get a fancy night out. He said we could afford it and they couldn’t (this is true), and I was an asshole for refusing to pay for them.”
Then her husband had talked with his parents regarding the issue, and wanted his wife to apologize from them.
“Later, after he had spoken to his dad, he told me I had embarrassed his parents and made them feel like moochers. They want an apology, and to make up for it, he said we should just take them out to the fancy resturant they want. No pretense of celebrating my award this time.”
Here are some of the advices and comments the Redditors wrote under the post.
“NTA. “after he had spoken to his dad, he told me I had embarrassed his parents and made them feel like moochers.” That’s exactly what they are. “They want an apology, and to make up for it, he said we should just take them out to the fancy resturant they want.”
They want another free meal to prove that they aren’t moochers? There should be a hard no to both the apology and the meal. This is an absurd position to be in.”
“This is a total move my grandparents would have used. They were infamous in our family for not only being moochers to others, but also tried to test the will of restaurants/managers to be cheap. They weren’t allowed into any buffet in their town because my grandma “wasn’t hungry” when they arrived but ended up eating entire meals off of my Grandpa’s plate.
Other restaurants they would be refused service because they simply tried too many times to get comped for something burned or for another imaginary excuse to save a few bucks.”
“I have an uncle that does this. He knows the names of almost every manager at the restaurants we frequent. He always has a credit already at the restaurant for something or someone not being to his liking. He’s insufferable and I hate it”
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