It doesn’t matter who we are, we are all going to have to make decisions in life. Some of the decisions are going to be easy to make and others are going to take a lot of thought.
Some of the decisions that cross our path may actually impact more than just us personally. They may have an impact on those we love and, depending upon our choice, we could do irreparable harm.
That is what we see in the following story about a woman who was planning her wedding. Her mother-in-law had a very unusual request. Take a look and tell me if she made the right choice.
I (26f) am planning my wedding to my fiance (27m) in a few months. Everything is going great and I love him so much. I can’t wait to spend my life with him. He loves my family, and I, for the most part, love his.
A bit of background, fiance has a much older brother. While my future MIL was pregnant three times in between them, all of them resulted in late miscarriages and stillbirths. As a result, MIL put all of her motherly love and attention on fiance. He had never tried a fruit or vegetable before I met him because his parents never made him when he was young and he had grown up assuming they were gross. (I got him to try some and he loves them now.)
As we were planning our guest list, we consulted our families about which, and how many, relatives we should invite. Future MIL asked that we “invite” fiance’s dead brother and sisters. When we asked what she meant, she wanted us to put up a framed photo of the dead babies in the pews at our wedding ceremony, and then save them seats at our reception.
I was horrified. First of all, we are trying to have a fairly small wedding to start with, and a beautiful, intimate venue. We can only have seats for 30-50 people, and I would like these places to be for our friends and family, not people who have never met either of us because they are dead. Fiance agrees that three of 50 seats reserved for dead people is too many. He suggested we compromise and just let MIL put up all three photos in one seat.
Personally, I think it’s gross and weird to include any of them. We’re starting our lives together. We want to have a family and it almost seems like a bad omen, but it means a lot to her and it’s a fairly small ask. Fiance’s parents are paying for 75% of our wedding, and this is the only request she’s had. So AITA for still refusing?
