This article was originally published in May 2017 and has recently been updated.
Have you ever heard of an alpha female? You know, those strong and independent women. Do you think they are really that strong, or that is only their exterior? Hmm, I am wondering the same thing. The good thing is that you can always find out something about the person by overseeing them. Some signs tell us even if you are a strong alpha female, you are still an emotional lady with a golden heart. Let’s go through them together!
1. You are always in the center of the attention – And it is not because you want to. Things just happen that way. When you are at the party people will want to talk to you because you are confident. When you are at your workplace, your colleagues will ask you for advice about some project. They always rely on you because you are a natural leader, and they can see that by the way you are handling situations.
2. Your life has a purpose – You have some goals in your life, and you are working hard every day to achieve them. It just describes you as a person, and frankly speaking, you don’t know how to live differently. You are the one who is working on herself every day to be better and stronger. Being an average is not your cup of tea. You were born to be a winner in all aspects of your life, and you won’t calm down until you achieve your goal.
3. You feel good being alone – You know some people feel bad when being alone? Well, you are not one of them. Being alone gives you time to recharge and spend some quality time thinking about your life. You don’t feel good if you don’t dedicate at least one hour daily to yourself. You like to think about the things you did and find solutions for problems. But that’s not the only thing you do when being alone. You like to please yourself by filling a tub and drinking cold champagne or watching your favorite TV show.
4. You know how balance is important – Balance is important in all aspects of your life, and you are working hard to make it happen. You take care of your body because that is your holy grail. On the other hand, you are trying to develop intellectually because you know that wisdom and knowledge can intrigue people more than a beautiful face. Simply, you are trying to find balance in everything that surrounds you, and you are freaking good at it.
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5. You don’t have problems with change – A real alpha female won’t be scared of change. In fact, she will embrace it like the most normal thing in the world. It can be moving to a new apartment or buying a new car; it will be okay with you. The most important thing is that the change is positive and not negative. People who don’t change are like statues, and that’s why it feels great for you to change something about your life here and there.
6. You love people – this is the most normal thing for you. You think that all the people in this world are meant to help others, so you love them without exception. Your love is unconditional, true, and faithful. While others have problems with approaching the opposite gender, you are confident. If you see someone you really like, it won’t be a big deal to meet them and get to know them. Things like this make you a real alpha female.
7. People don’t understand you all the time – There are certain things you believe in, and others can’t change the way you think or feel. We are living in a world where all the people are trying to be the same. They wear the same clothes; their makeup is almost identical, they drive the same cars. But you are something else. You don’t want to be part of them because you have your own cozy world where you feel great.
8. You love taking risks – You know that old saying: “He who dares, wins!” Well, the same is with you. You like trying new things and taking risks. It just makes your blood run faster, and that feeling is moving you. What others see as a risk you see as an opportunity, and in most cases, you are right. You are a natural risk-taker.
9. You NEVER give up – This is one of your best qualities. It helps you to be successful and sets you apart from the rest of society. You are persistent and stubborn when you want to achieve a goal. You are 100% sure that you can make things better, and nobody can convince you otherwise.
10. You hardly ever show emotions – Even when your whole world is falling apart, you will still have a smile on your face. People around you don’t need to know your problems, they are for you to know, and you’ll divulge them as you see fit. In your heart, you’re simply looking out for others and don’t want to unload weigh them down with emotions. If you need it, you will cry in your private space and not somewhere where people can actually see you. That is what an alpha female will often do. This can be a double-edged sword; as an alpha female, you have to make sure you repress your emotions too much, as this can lead to relationship problems.
11. You help your friends with their problems – Even that’s none of your business, you always consider your friend’s problems your own. If someone is bothering your friends, you will confront them, but only after thinking about the consequences. You are very patient in listening, and people like to reveal your secrets to you. They are sure that you will keep them forever. You never hurt people unless they deserve it. In that case, you can be a real beast!
12. You can read people so easily – Even people are not aware that you can read them very well. You just need to pay attention to their body language and see how they act in front of you. You can figure it out whether they are liars, haters, or good ones!
With all these qualities, men may find you intimidating but worry not. There are those out there who can handle us. Alpha females unite!