After her spouse was absent for most of her pregnancy, a Reddit user wanted to know if she was being unfair in giving him an ultimatum. She soon understood how bad her condition was.
The couple had been dating for five years before getting married, the woman said.
She had already been pregnant for six months when she decided to ask the Reddit community for help.
The woman revealed that her husband and his mother maintained an extremely tight bond, saying, “My husband is a complete mommas boy. He’ll call his mother for hours and talk to her and spend time with her more than he does with me.”
However, the incident that prompted her post on Reddit was the last straw that broke the camel’s back.
What Caused the Argument Between the Wife and Husband?
In the sixth month of her pregnancy, the woman urged her husband to spend more time with her so that they could get ready for the arrival of their soon-to-be-born child.
Her husband told her that being around more for her would eat into the time he had to spend with his mother.
The wife acknowledged her husband’s understanding of the notion but insisted that she required his care more than his mother did.
“You know my mom comes before you.”
After her husband left for his mother’s, the woman processed what he had said and decided to go on. After that, she handled everything on her own.
Her mother-in-law called her while she was home alone with the baby to tell her she had won. The fact that the wife could hear her husband giggling in the background as her mother-in-law boasted about her victory made the situation worse.
Despite her anger, she carried on with her day.
A few weeks later, the couple celebrated their anniversary, and while the woman had planned to spend the day doing things like watching sports and giving her husband his favorite food, he had other ideas.
Her husband came home from work and then left again while she was in the stall.
She assumed her husband could be organizing a surprise for her, but when he had still not returned half an hour later, she called to find out where he was.
After confirming that her husband was indeed staying with his mother, she told him that his mom could as well be carrying their child as he was treating her like a girlfriend.
After she hung up, she got text messages from both her husband and mother-in-law, telling her that she shouldn’t insult her mother-in-law and that instead of being bitter and envious, she should find something else to do.
To determine if she was in the wrong, she asked the Reddit community.
What Did People Say?
The woman quickly submitted a follow-up, in which she expressed her gratitude to those who had commented on her original account to reassure her that she wasn’t crazy. In addition, she stated:
“I think my MIL is competing with me, and I might even have to give my husband [an] ultimatum because after reading these comments, things could only get worse from here.”
The community as a whole agreed that she had every right to expect her husband to spend more time with her and the baby than he did with his mother while she was pregnant.
Others suggested she try talking to her spouse to learn more about his time spent with his mother.
The spouse explained that the reason she did it was because his mother was very special to him.
The woman stated that she pondered divorcing her spouse when she saw that her mother-in-law had no plans to change.
She informed her husband that she would divorce him if he didn’t stop acting like he was married to his mother.
The husband wept when he heard this and promised to make amends.
The woman wanted to talk to her mother-in-law about her husband, but she knew her mother-in-law would tell her she had no chance of winning.
There is no winning or losing, the woman stressed, adding that her mother-in-law would lose visitation rights to her grandchild if she did not change her behavior.