There has been a lot of discussion in recent years about sexuality. Many people seem to be questioning their gender and acceptance is the most popular course.
Sometimes, we may hear about somebody who deals with a sexual identity problem and it may take them years to figure things out. That was the case with a woman named Emma Flint, as she struggled with her sexuality for some 30 years.
One of the things that she came to realize and is now confident in is that she is abrosexual. It took her three decades to come to that conclusion and she had some bumps along the way.
One of the things that was texted to her by a friend was: “When did you decide this? Is this even a label – I’ve never heard of it. I support you, obviously, but this doesn’t sound real.” It was a struggle, to say the least.
If you are not familiar with the sexual orientation of abrosexuality, it means that you could be romantically attracted to different genders or perhaps even to noone throughout your lifetime. It is a fluid type of sexuality where you might be attracted to men for a while and then to women for a while.
The term itself, which includes ‘abro’ is a Greek word that means graceful or delicate. In other words, the movement from one sexual orientation to another changes gradually and smoothly.
After Emma learned about her personal sexual orientation, she was able to embrace something that was not available before.
She said: “I didn’t learn about abrosexuality until two years ago, when I was 30. Up until that point, I’d struggled to identify what my sexuality was because it fluctuated so rapidly.”
In her words, sometimes she would feel like a lesbian and then quickly shift to being bisexual. She ended up realizing: “My sexuality was fluid.”
“I’m not expecting everyone to know what it means – he*l, I didn’t until two years ago – but you should always listen with respect,” she wrote. “I’m happy to say that the rest of my friends and family have been very supportive of my identity, and have strived to learn more.”
She does get a lot of support online but at times, there are those who are confused. She said: “It’s still hard to hear things like ‘mate, you’re just confused’ or ‘just say you’re bisexual and be done with it’. I refuse to be boxed in by someone else’s limited knowledge. We’re all learning new things about ourselves all the time – that’s what growth and development is about.
“Eventually, I hope that abrosexuality will be seen as normal, just another identity that someone might have, and not regarded as a way to be ‘on trend’, as some of the hurtful comments I’ve received suggest,
“I’m no longer nervous about my sexuality because it makes sense to me, and in the end, that’s all that really matters.”
