Losing a loved one is one of the hardest experiences we face in life. In these moments, words matter more than ever. While people often mean well, certain phrases can unintentionally hurt those who are grieving.

1. “I know how you feel.”

Even if you’ve experienced loss yourself, everyone grieves differently. Saying you “know” can minimize the other person’s unique pain. Instead, simply listen and offer support.

2. “They’re in a better place.”

While this is meant to be comforting, it can feel dismissive to those struggling with their loss, especially if they aren’t religious or have different beliefs.

3. “It was God’s plan” or “Everything happens for a reason.”

These phrases can make the grieving person feel guilty or confused. The timing is often inappropriate, as they need empathy, not philosophical explanations.

4. “At least they lived a long life”

This is especially harmful. No matter the age, the pain of losing someone is profound. Comparing or rationalizing the loss can feel insensitive and dismissive.

5. “Time heals everything.”

Grief doesn’t follow a timetable. Suggesting it will just go away can make the person feel pressured to “move on” before they’re ready.

Better Things to Say

• “I’m here for you.”
• “I can’t imagine how hard this is for you.”
• “Would you like to talk or sit in silence together?”

Supporting someone through grief is about listening, being present, and offering comfort without judgment. The right words—or simply being there—can make all the difference.