They sometimes say that old habits die hard. Some of those habits may even have negative consequences that we would like to remove, but unless we can overcome the problem, it is unlikely to get better.
The fact of the matter is, humans are creatures of habit and you don’t even have to be old in order to develop a habit that will last a lifetime. We sometimes even see this in young children, and that is what we see in the following Story.
There is a big decision that has to be made and it all has to do with the way that young children are acting. Is she going to make the right decision? You be the judge.
I was diagnosed with PPD so I’m not sure if this is playing a part in my actions or not. I’ve been with my BF for 6 years and he has a 12yo son “Jake”. I have owned my home for nearly 10 years now. They moved in 2 years ago. Our daughter is 3 months old.
Now, Jake loves his sister. He’s always holding her and trying to help. But there’s been a massive issue since I had her with him purposely scaring her. Walking up to her and yelling “RA!” He thinks it’s hilarious when she does startle reflex’s and then laughs when she cries, saying “aww I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to scare her like that” but continues laughing and continues purposely trying to scare her. At least 4x a day.
Now, I have ALWAYS told him to cut the s**t. I have told him several times that he is hurting her ears. I have told him several times that it’s not funny. And then not even 3 days ago I lost my s**t entirely and told my BF and him that if he purposely scared my kid again than they would be evicted and gone from my (constant) life. I said this because while my BF does correct his kid sometimes, he also tells me I’m overreacting. He said that it’s natural for kids to think it’s funny when babies get startled and I simply don’t understand because I’ve never been around multiple kids (his son has a half brother and apparently did the same thing with him when he was a baby). But anyways, I lost it and threatened to kick them out and in that moment, I truly felt like an a**hole because Jake looked sad and just went to his room.
But like.. last night I stepped out of the room for a minute and my daughter was in her swing. Jake went to sit here and when I was out of the room, I heard Jake (very loudly and fast) say “What are you doing?” (In a baby voice) and my daughter start screaming immediately following. I heard my boyfriend take of it. And then like an hour later I went to the bathroom and the baby was in her seat and I heard “RA” followed by the baby crying, yet again. So I told them to pack their s**t and get out, now. I didn’t wait for a response because now I’m trying to calm down my baby. Jake tried apologizing and said it was a habit and my boyfriend start protesting, saying it’s not a big deal and I just refused to acknowledge their excuses and told them to leave. My BF sat down on the chair, said he wasn’t going anywhere and that this is his house too. So I said I would leave then and have cops serve him an eviction notice. He tried begging me to calm down and kept saying “he’s f**king 12, what do you expect? he’s not going to be perfect.” I left and this morning I filed for their eviction. Everyone thinks I’m being ridiculous here but Jake refuses to stop and I’m tired of him purposely yelling in my daughter’s face to scare her 4+ times a day.
ETA: I also have asked Jake why he does this and he has said he thinks it’s funny when kids cry.
